WRITING BLOG: Why I Psych Myself Out Before Writing

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Some of you have been following my little blog here for some time and in turn, know about my writing journey. It’s been a long journey of trial and error. It’s been season after season of learning what works for me, discovering my writing style and preferences, and finding the right story as my hopefully soon to be debut novel. *gulps*

In recent months, I shared about my current work in progress. My main character–let’s call her ‘G’–and I have gotten to know each other and she wanted her crazy story told sooner than I had anticipated. Upon building her story up throughout the outlining phase and then beginning the drafting process, I realized that her story was who I wanted to present to the world first. I immediately got sucked into her world, friends, and adorable surprise pet.

In the last three months, I had determined to fervently work on G’s story and gave myself a deadline of sorts. I am choosing to aim for an early 2017 release. Self-publishing, of course.

Unfortunately, when that decision was made, that is when life decided to be a punk and dump loads and loads of unexpected manure over my personal and my family’s life. Between those fun events, add to that, still running and growing a small business, working a part-time ‘day’ job, and well, my poor G and her friends took a back seat which made my soul weepy.

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With those lulls between writing sessions, something else was happening that was infuriating me. Every time I had determined a day of writing, I’d set all my things in front of me, I’d get cozy and create the perfect atmosphere and then….well, then I’d just sit there. Sit and wait. Wait to put my fingers on the damn keyboard and start typing.

WHY WAS I NOT WRITING WORDS?!

On my business YouTube channel, Coffee Reading Writing, we focus a lot on videos about writing. A few videos back, I spoke on two subjects; Procrastination and Writer’s Being Perfectionists.

Both of those things are killers to writers. They are the ultimate cock-blockers.

Today, is one of those days. Luckily, I attempted for the first time this whole Hemingway prescribed, ‘WRITE DRUNK. EDIT SOBER’ method and let me tell you…it works! Well, perhaps, you want to aim for Buzzed Writing. I can’t imagine being flat out Drunk and attempting to even turn on my computer, less write actual, relevant words.

WRITE DRUNK EDIT SOBER

Yesterday, my final word count at 3am was 4,090. More than I thought I’d write so, yay me!

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Today, I’m attempting to get another chunk done. Only, as the day has gone by, I’ve been PROCRASTINATING. Like a MoFo! Sure, it probably didn’t help that after my drinking the night before I woke up, clutching the covers, refusing to get out of bed.

Suddenly, I had an epiphany.

I thought, WHY DO I PSYCH MYSELF OUT BEFORE WRITING?

Yes, procrastination is a nasty little parasite. Sure, the desire to string the perfect combination of words keeps me paralyzed over the keyboard (ie. Writer’s shouldn’t be perfectionists). But, there was something else nudging at my productivity and I couldn’t put my finger on it.

Then. BAM!

I was watching a YouTube video and it’s a long one. It’s a GamePlay of Hitman. I’m a nerd. I love watching people play cool games. Anyway, I’m watching and not wanting to stop yet. My friend texts me just at that time with this little motivation, good vibes message for me in regards to writing.

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I laughed about how I’m having trouble with the whole, “May the internet not distract you,” part. Then she encouraged me further and said, take internet breaks.

Well, duh, Desiree…Right?

Eureka. Moment.

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I am such a freaking extremist in every aspect of my life. I’ve learned this about myself more and more in recent years. Desiree, you can write some, then stop, watch the video as a reward, then go back to writing, then have another break.

In fact, I actually mentioned this in the procrastination video; ideas to overcome it and how to use small tasks, every ten minutes followed by a short break reward. So, why is it so hard for me to just follow that tip myself?!!

Cause Desiree doesn’t know how not to throw herself into something 100%. Sure, that’s not always a bad trait to have, but sometimes, that sucker can shoot you in the foot. When I write, I tend to open that document and when I finally begin putting words to a page, I will go at it for HOURS. I’ll go till the wee hours of the night–because I’m definitely nocturnal. I don’t know how to break up my work periods. When I give myself to a project, I go all in with blinders.

Unfortunately, that is why I psych myself out before writing. Subconsciously, it’s like I’m telling my brain,

“Once we start working, no more fun or playtime. Get ready for HOURS of brain crunching.”

Now, don’t get me wrong. I LOVE WRITING! I love my story, my characters, the events to come. Writing is fun for me. I just need to pull back on the crazy a bit and allow myself to delegate timeframes during my writing for breaks. I’ll start a writing sprint and go hard for hours. But getting to the actual starting point of writing will sometimes take me ALL DAY because I’m in my head.

Anyone else having this, “Light.Bulb” moment about themselves?

So right now, I will go and post this. Then I am going to get back into my document. I will finish the scene I left off on last night. After that, I’ll give myself a 5 min. reward break and watch more of the Hitman Gameplay. (I know. I’m random.)

Well, I just had to get that off my chest. I hope my ramble felt relatable to any of you writers out there. Actually, it can be relevant stuff for just about anyone doing any sort of project out there. The more you know, right? Once you do, you’re aware of it and can take actions to improve the circumstance.

Alright, enough rambling. Off to write! Till next time, friends!

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COVER REVEAL: The First Full-length Novel by Alexa Riley!

 

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‘EVERYTHING FOR HER’ by Alexa Riley

Coming December 27th, 2016

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Let’s talk about Alexa Riley’s books for a minute, shall we? I discovered randomly ‘her’ (recently found out it’s actually two awesome women under the pen name) books a couple years ago and on occasion escaped into their short story world full of cheesy, insta-lovey, alpha sexy, sweet, hot stories. It’s a delicious guilty pleasure! Where there’s an Alexa Riley story, there’s a disclaimer, warning readers what they’re about the get into and confirming that yes, the style of writing and story is on purpose. And we love it! By now, if you’re a fan, you know what you’re jumping into. And she always has fun with these quirky disclaimers and dedications.

Warning: This is hot and fast insta-love that ignites the pages. It’s burning heat that combusts into an inferno of lava. Okay, that’s all the fire words I could come up with. Now insert a pun about a big hose. It’s quick, dirty, and ridiculously over the top. (Disclaimer for, HOLDING HIS FOREVER)

One thing I admire about Alexa Riley’s writing is that she knows how to give you a full, well-written story even within such a short word count. Many authors who write short stories sometimes leave you at the end feeling like so many moments were missing. It didn’t feel like a complete beginning, middle, and end experience. Somehow, Alexa Riley has mastered this and does it time and time again.

Now, hearing that she’s coming out with a full-length novel, I am beyond excited to see all the goodness we’re going to get in this one story. Here’s the synopsis and cover reveal for this upcoming novel, EVERYTHING FOR HER!

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 USA TODAY bestselling author Alexa Riley’s first full-length novel shows just what happens when a strong, possessive man finds the woman of his dreams.

I’ll never forget the way she looked, so confident and sure of herself. I watched her from a distance. She wasn’t ready for me yet. I didn’t approach her and I didn’t disturb her, but I never once took my eyes off her.  

Mallory Sullivan is ready to start her new life. After graduating at the top of her class, she’s landed one of the most coveted internships in the United States. Hard work and determination have gotten her to this moment of living the life she only dreamed of while growing up in foster care.

From the start, I knew that she would be my greatest achievement, so the day I let her go, I set down a path for her. A path to me. 

She never expected Oz to be the greatest culmination of those dreams. But sometimes fate determines who you fall in love with. Who makes you lose control. Who owns your soul.

And then you realize it wasn’t fate at all…

I’ve wanted to care for and protect her since the first moment I saw her. I’ve constructed everything in our lives so that at the perfect moment, I could have her, could give her the life she deserves.

 

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Alexa Riley is two sassy friends who got together and wrote some dirty books. They are both married moms of two who love football, donuts, and obsessed book heroes.

They specialize in insta-love, over-the-top, sweet, and cheesy love stories that don’t take all year to read. If you want something SAFE, short, and always with a happily ever after, then Alexa Riley is for you!

Author Links

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HAPPY RELEASE DAY! ‘EIGHT-SECOND RIDE’ BY ANNE JOLIN – REVIEW

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IT’S HERE! IT’S LIVE! 

From the moment you begin reading, Anne Jolin ropes deep emotions around your heart as you hold your breath through an intense prologue that sets the path for our main heroine, Rayne, aka. Ray.

A single mom to an adorable, spunky girl (Riley), Ray comes home to be the new veterinarian and has sworn off cowboys. Enter sexy and persistent cowboy, Owen Daniels. Rodeo bronco rider is coming back home to check on his leading lady in his life, Remington’s Lady, his injured horse who he left in the care of Ray Brookes, trusted family vet. It just turns out, he wasn’t expecting a woman; a beautiful woman who looked nothing like the old man Ray he remembers. This was Rayne “Ray” Brookes, the daughter.

These two begin a game of cat and mouse. Owen is denied a date but he’s not used to being told no. He likes a challenge. But, ladies, this isn’t some brooding alpha who aggressively tries to get what he wants; nope, this man is all cowboy gentleman and oh, my word, did he make me swoon. He pursued the woman he wanted to get to know. He instantly took a liking to her daughter and their growing friendship was one of the most precious things ever.

I fell in love with these three together.

Then….then, Ray finally had her walls pulled down and she became owned by Owen and it was wonderful!

“Every kiss we shared before was rivaled by this kiss, because with this kiss, he owned me. I was owned by Owen.”

This story has so much heart. You’ll start with a lump in your throat, you’ll laugh at the wonderful antics at the Willow Bay Stables family dinner table, you’ll swoon, you’ll get teary eyed and you’ll find yourself smiling with a happy sign in the end. Another Anne Jolin book that I loved. Her characters suck me in and stay in my heart. I loved reading Ray, Owen, and Riley’s story and I can’t wait for Rhys and Aurora’s next which we get a sneak peek of at the end of this book.

I highly recommend this! Snuggle up with cozy socks, a warm drink in hand and get lost in the Canadian countryside for a bit. Get Owned by Owen! <3 

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SYNOPSIS

Owen Daniels lives his life eight seconds at a time. The thrill of anticipation that comes with sitting on twelve hundred pounds of untamed power is unparalleled. The adrenaline rush that floods his system when the chute opens is one of life’s most unique and natural highs.

Ride eight seconds bareback on a bucking bronco—that’s his life.

When Owen’s stock horse, Remington’s Lady, is injured midway through the rodeo circuit, he trailers her back home to Willow Bay, Alberta, to remain in the care of the local vet, Ray Brookes.

Months later, with a truck bed full of buckles, Owen comes home to collect his Lady from the man he trusted to help her recover. Only Ray happens to be short for Rayne, and Rayne happens to be a woman.

And this woman wants nothing to do with a cowboy fresh off the circuit. As far as she’s concerned, he can take his buckles, boots, and spurs right back on out of her life.

Will Rayne keep them from holding on to their eight-second ride? Or will love buck out of the chute in time for a perfect score?

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HAPPY RELEASE WEEK TO K.C. LYNN’S ‘AN ACT OF OBSESSION’ + GIVEAWAY!

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Title: An Act of Obsession (Acts of Honor Series – Book 3)

Author: KC Lynn

Release Date: July 20, 2016

TBR Link: Goodreads

Oh man, friends, I’ve been waiting for this book! I follow K.C. Lynn’s group on facebook (and you should too) and when she gave us little hints and teasers of Sophie and Kolan, I knew I NEEDED this book, asap! It has been a torturous wait but worth every second.

From the moment I stumbled upon her free book by accident, ‘FIGHTING TEMPTATION’ (MEN OF HONOR SERIES BOOK ONE) I was hooked. I immediately delved into the next one, then the next one and it just continued from there. She’s become one of my favorite adult romance authors. Her characters are so 3-D, her stories always grip you and you walk away with a smile on your heart. You want to be friends with all her female leads and you wish you had the honor of being loved hard by these broken but beautiful men.

If you read the previous stories, you know about Kolan. He’s Katelyn’s brother who has had some rough history that everyone, and I mean, everyone knows about. I was always curious to see what really was going on behind the scenes of all that so I was definitely excited when his book was coming up. Then, K.C. released the prologue of the story which is in Sophie’s POV and MY. HEART. BROKE.

What this young woman went through and the actions she takes after a tragic and horrific experience had a constant squeeze on my heart the entire time I read this book.

I absolutely LOVED Kolan and Sophie together. I love what he provided for her. He was exactly what she needed. You don’t need to have read the previous books to read this one but I’m sure once you read it, you’ll want more and just have to start from book one and meet all these wonderful characters.

I’m never disappointed with a K.C. Lynn book. I love these characters. I love how she’s evolved their circle and I’m so excited that we’re gonna get more. So much more! If you love romance, some suspense, and a beautiful story with tons of heart, lots of laughs, and sexy goodness, definitely check this one out!

PS. Scroll to the bottom for the GIVEAWAY! 

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Synopsis

She’s beautiful yet scarred beyond repair. 

He’s powerful and lethal, in and out of the ring. 

One act of kindness brought Sophie Parish far more danger than she could have ever imagined. Now she’s on the run, leaving behind her family and the only dream she’s ever had.  

Retired EFC fighter Kolan Slade’s life has been one endless battle after another. He has a dark past with an even darker desire—the only one he’s ever known. 

Until he meets Sophie. 

Intrigued by her raw beauty and the secrets she’s trying to hide, Kolan craves to know who she is and what she’s running from. 

Protecting her becomes his obsession and he’ll sacrifice it all to save her. But in the end her love will have him questioning himself and everything he thought he knew.

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Excerpt

Reaching my SUV, I place her feet on the ground and cage her against the passenger door, bracing both my hands on either side of her head. “And what about you, Lia?” I ask, dipping my head in close to hers. “Hmm? You know my secrets. What about yours?”

She might not know all of mine but she knows enough.

“What is it you want to know?” she asks, a slight tremble in her voice.

“I want to know who you are and where you came from. But more than anything, I want to know what you’re hiding under that scarf.”

The stark pain that enters her eyes strikes me to my fucking core. “Trust me, you don’t want to see what’s under there. I can’t even bear to look at it myself.”

“Nothing scares me.”

It’s a complete lie. She scares the hell out of me.

A heavy silence descends upon us, her pretty eyes wide and fearful.

“What are you so afraid of?” I ask.

Her breath hitches, emotion shining bright in her gaze. “Everything.”

There’s so much despair in that one word that I want to fucking kill whoever put it there. Unable to resist, I gently drop my forehead on hers, my jaw locking as I restrain myself from doing what I really want to do.

“I’m going to respect your privacy…for now. But one day, you’re going to tell me who made you so afraid. And if they’re still breathing—they won’t be for much longer.”

Her eyes fall closed, lip trembling as she tries to shield her pain from me. “Some secrets, Kolan, are best left unknown.”

“Not between us. The day will come when there will be no more secrets between us.”

Her eyes open, locking with mine, but she remains silent. I press my lips to her forehead then reach for the door handle. “Come on. Let’s go home.”

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About the Author

AUTHOR PIC KC LYNN

 

K.C. Lynn is a small town girl living in Western Canada. She married her high school sweetheart and they have four amazing children: two lovely girls and a set of handsome twin boys. It was her love for romance books that gave K.C. the courage to sit down and write her own novel. When she is not in her writing cave, pounding out new characters and stories, she can be found living between the pages of a book, meeting new tattooed, hot alpha males with very big…Hearts.

 

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PRE-ORDER AVAILABLE: ‘Eight-Second Ride’ by Anne Jolin

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Friends!

Today, we’re talking about Anne Jolin! I absolutely love her and her books. I’ve read all of them and they always provide the perfect getaway with just the right amount of angst, sexy, and sweetness. Here’s your chance to pre-order her second book in the ‘Willow Bay Stables’ series. Hot, Canadian Cowboys? Yes, please! Check it out below!

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Eight-Second Ride (Willow Bay Stables #2)

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Synopsis:

Owen Daniels lives his life eight seconds at a time. The thrill of anticipation that comes with sitting on twelve hundred pounds of untamed power is unparalleled. The adrenaline rush that floods his system when the chute opens is one of life’s most unique and natural highs.

Ride eight seconds bareback on a bucking bronco—that’s his life.

When Owen’s stock horse, Remington’s Lady, is injured midway through the rodeo circuit, he trailers her back home to Willow Bay, Alberta, to remain in the care of the local vet, Ray Brookes.

Months later, with a truck bed full of buckles, Owen comes home to collect his Lady from the man he trusted to help her recover. Only Ray happens to be short for Rayne, and Rayne happens to be a woman.

And this woman wants nothing to do with a cowboy fresh off the circuit. As far as she’s concerned, he can take his buckles, boots, and spurs right back on out of her life.

Will Rayne keep them from holding on to their eight-second ride? Or will love buck out of the chute in time for a perfect score?

Add to your #Goodreads TBR ➜ http://bit.ly/1TT3E7m

Eight-Second Ride (Willow Bay Stables Book 2)

BOOK TALK: Cover Love for Corinne Michaels’ ‘SAY YOU’LL STAY’

Hello, friends!

Past few weeks have been crazy. If it’s not one thing it’s always another. I’m here to talk about this swoon-worthy book by one of my fav authors of 2015.

I’ve read and been sucked into all the goodies Corinne Michaels has given us so, to say I’m not excited about this would be crazy. How awesome that, not only do we get a cover reveal but the wonderful news that in just a few short weeks, we’ll have this baby in our hands to read and devour.

And here it is:

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SYNOPSIS:

One word.
Stay.

It was all he had to do. Instead, he got on that bus and took my heart with him.

That was seventeen years ago.

I moved on. Marriage. Kids. White picket fence. Everything I ever wanted, but my husband betrayed me and I was left once again.

Alone, penniless, and with two boys, I had no choice but to return to Tennessee. He wasn’t supposed to be there. I should’ve been safe. However, fate has a way of stepping in.

This time around, the tables are turned. It’s my decision. Second chances do exist, but I don’t know if we can repair what’s already been broken . . .

** This is a STANDALONE **


Hello handsome cover. She insisted that it would be better than Liam’s covers from the ‘CONSOLATION DUET’ and we all scoffed that it was impossible. EVERYONE had swooned over Liam’s cover and that model portraying Liam. Let’s reminisce.

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But, I gotta say…I am very much liking this new cover for her new book that is set to release June 20th. I also just love the warm, cozy Fall feel I’m getting from, ‘SAY YOU’LL STAY’. 

This is a standalone which is great because she’s been known to torture us with CRAZY cliffhangers. No book two to wait for with this one! *jumps for joy*

Not gonna lie, that synopsis scares me. Those types of second chance stories are hard, especially if the guy did something royally asinine, leaving the girl heartbroken for years to come. I’m a bit stubborn by nature so I take these offenses to heart when reading. The character who screwed up has to redeem the crap out of themselves. But, Miss Corinne hasn’t failed me yet!

I can’t wait to get my hands on this! I’ll definitely come back and let y’all know my thoughts when I do!

Happy Reading!

BOOK TALK: ‘THE DIVORCE’ By Nicole Strycharz

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GOODREADS SYNOPSIS:

Jenzy: I love my husband, but he doesn’t see me anymore. We were college sweethearts and for seven years I’ve been his wife. Five of those years were bliss; the last two have been a long fall from grace.

He’s the love of my life, the sexy and smart man I saw my future with, but now I don’t think he sees it too. I’m tired of not being seen, I’m tired of not being heard, and I’m tired of being in love alone.
I was his optimistic hippie girl that he couldn’t get enough of. Now I’m just his annoyance.
So I told him, I finally found the backbone and this is our story….

Chris: My wife just told me she wants a divorce. What the hell do I say to that? I thought we were fine-well, fine is a bad word, I thought we were okay. Doesn’t matter what I think because she’s moving out and I can’t really let this happen.

Yeah, she annoys me, we’re total opposites, but I knew that when I met her, she hasn’t changed…maybe I have? I was her anchor, her safety, her home. Now I’m that guy that’s wreaked her and there are plenty of men willing to repair the damage I did.

So I have a plan. Find out what happened to change my affection for her within the last two years, and win her back before someone else does, because I still love her, and she still loves me….I guess….


This Booknerd’s Thoughts:

I have so many thoughts and feelings about this book that keeping it short and spoiler-free is going to be a struggle because after reading this book in one sitting, it’s been days later and these characters and their memories are still with me.

First off, the book is called, THE DIVORCE. This is NOT an easy concept to write and write well because one, clearly someone is at fault here. Most likely, the blame goes both ways but there’s probably one person who’s blame is greater. How do you write likeable, relatable characters where not one person is clearly the villain?

Nicole brilliantly presented us all the events necessary to not only experience but also understand the entirety of this couple’s marriage. Chris and Jenzy had a whirlwind romance when they first meet and slowly, we start seeing the pieces unravel on what in time, went wrong.

I felt like I experienced EVERY emotion with this book. I laughed, I cursed, I cried, I swooned, I switched sides so many times. Team Jenzy! Team Chris! One had my favor and then, BAM! Someone does something that changed it all for me again. Nicole weaved such a brilliant story!

I was so scared at times, not knowing how it would all end and how I would feel about it. Yet, she found a way to give us a full circle story that left me so satisfied. My eyes were still watery and I was full of emotions.

Don’t miss out on this emotionally, heartbreaking, beautiful story!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

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Nicole Strycharz has been writing historical romance for over ten years. Her passion for history fuels the creativity for her novels and she finds the tools there to create a compelling plot. Nicole lives in Virginia with her three children and is always working on the next book!